Empowering Kids, Talking to your children about Sex.



By Tina Mattson, Educate and Empower Kids Contributor

The Talk. One of the most dreaded phrases in parenthoodBring up the topic at your next playgroup, and almost everyone will know to which talk you are referring. As parents we look at our innocent new baby’s face, and we can’t envision the day when our child will need to know what sex is. But, because these things happen, the baby grows up, and one day we wake up and have a preschooler. Still no need to have THE TALK we think. But is that true anymore? 

Most of us probably didn’t have an official birds and the bees convo until closer to middle school age. But things are different now. Toddlers understand how to use a tablet and smart phone. Computers are in every home and in schools. The Internet is never more than a couple of clicks away. We need to start earlier to teach our children about healthy sexuality, so the Internet and media don’t do it for us.


The average age of first exposure to Internet pornography is 11. Pornography is the worst example of what a healthy sexual relationship looks like. We need to teach our children first.

At Educate Empower Kids, our mission is to encourage youth to develop a healthy sexuality through education, empowerment, communication and love. And many parents are recognizing these discussions, because it can’t be just one talk, needs to start young.

In 30 Days of Sex Talks for Ages 3-7, parents can utilize the short and simple lesson plans to discuss such topics as the proper terms for anatomy, good touch/bad touch, and healthy relationships. Parents can tailor each lesson individually to meet the specific needs of their child or children. As children age, parents can use similar books for ages 8-11 and 12+ to guide more in depth conversations.

Children are naturally curious. They love learning. They have questions. Let’s use that to our advantage. Now is the time to start teaching our kids that we as parents should be their best and first choice when they have questions.

Tina Mattson has a BA in Journalism with a Minor in English. She is a mother, writer and advocate for children’s safety and education.